Would you adopt a child outside of your own race?
Friday, February 5th, 2010 at
11:38 pm
I am not prejudice at all… I would adopt any baby in the world. I want to leave whatever children I am blessed with in Gods hands. The only concern I have is that a child of another race would feel like it didn’t belong with us if we were all Caucasian and it was Asian, Black, Mexican etc.( And by saying we all… I mean Me, my husband and our two daughters) I’m hoping that there is someone that has had experience with this.. If you have please share your story =]
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I would and did. Now let me say this…….RACE MATTERS.
You have to do sooooooooo much research and embrace the heritage of your child.
things to think about………..
1) It is suggested to adopt 2 children of the same race so that there is not just 1 child singled out in her/his family.
2) What music you listen to matters what race are they?
3) photos on your walls or pictures on your walls are they diverse?
4) how diverse is your school, neighborhood, church, town? All of this MATTERS. Your child will have to see themselves reflected in their environment.
5) what magazines do you have in your house? Are they diverse? Your child will notice.
6) what shows do you watch are they diverse?
7) how will you handle racism?
9) You will lose friends and maybe family. Can you handle that? Trust me it will happen, especially when your child becomes dating age.
10) Name the top three holidays celebrated in your child’s culture. Its not just your child’s culture now you are a family its your families culture. You learn, experience and embrace your child’s culture together.
Its the hardest most difficult and most awesome and rewarding experiences of my life. Your life will change. Do you know what "white blindness" means…….oh you’ll become familiar with it quickly.
Read the book "In their own voices"
Good luck to you. You have much to think about. Make an informed decision. If you have any questions or if i can help you further, just email me.
i would adopt a baby outside of my race….who cares what other people think? just make sure that they know that you love them as much as any parent could
We are all of the human race, so why not?
I haven’t had experience with this, but I plan to one day. I would absolutely adopt a child outside of my own race and raise her to know that God created all races equally and that her skin color has nothing to do with how much I love her or how she fits into our family. I hope you can have the wonderful chance of adopting a child. Good luck!
I understand your perspective, but eventually any child you adopt would learn the truth sooner or later. Children are impressionable and I think that the fact that you loved the child, provided food, love, and other necessities from the time he was an infant, would transcend the differences in race. Family is more than just whose blood you have.
Yes i dont care children are children great children come from all races. If you decide not to adopt a cute adorable kids just because he is not from your race. You are missing out on the good times you and this child could have. And if you are a caring parent their is no reason why this child should miss out on your love because he is of a different shade.
I know of a Caucasian family with two kids who adopted a little boy from Africa, and let me tell you, he does not feel out of place at all. He is the happiest little boy.
Good luck with everything!
Peace.
My husband & I are both white & we adopted a black child.
Yes. No question.
There is no question that through that child’s life, he/she will undoubtedly ask himself questions and think about his race. That is ineveitable. However, that is also normal. The best you can do is provide him/her with as much love as any other of your children, no more; no less. Answer questions for him/her whenever asked. Explain to him/her why you chose to adopt. Show your love.
good luck!!
Yes, we did adopt a tiny black baby that everybody had a smile for. He grew up into a muscled black male that people clutch their pocketbooks around.
Race matters. It’s something you work on, We were the right parents for this child at that time. He’s been in therapy since he was 3. It’s not been easy, and same race parents would have had many of the same issues we did. We did somethings better than others might have managed, due to our experience with children born with his challenges, and some things we are not good at, and can’t manage to fake.
He envies white children and experiences racism overtly and subtly since he was tiny. It is not easy to handle that with grace.
You must become competent in the child’s culture and give it 150 percent. We manage about 80 percent.
I would adopt outside my own race. Remember, its not just a question of if the child will feel odd because s/he is different. Having a child of a different heritage and culture is a two way street. YOU must also be open to the culture of that child. If you adopt an Asian child, you’ve also adopted his/her culture as your own.
I would adopt at least 2 then they’re not the only one from that country.
No. But then again, being an adoptee myself, I wouldn’t adopt any child. You may not be prejudiced, but most of society is.
Maybe you should ask transracial adoptees how they feel about it. They’re the ones who know how they feel- NOT their adoptive parents.
Here are some transracial adoptee blogs:
http://birthproject.wordpress.com/
https://ethnicallyincorrect.wordpress.com/
http://missinpiece.wordpress.com/
http://afaad.wordpress.com/
I would and I have…three of them so far. We are white and the three are all different races from my wife, natural daughter and I.
Definitely!!!!
Every child deserves a home! Every child deserves a family. They are gifts from God!
I would probably think the transition may be easier if the adopted child is younger….young children do not see black, white, yellow, etc….they only see mommy, daddy, brother and sister. I know this firsthand from witnessing the family of my best friend…they’ve adopted four children. One from Ethiopia who is dark-skinned. One is a dark-skinned African-American from the States. Two are caucasian children from the states. The family sees each other as a FAMILY.
I think it’s only an issue if the family members themselves make it an issue. If they accept and love the child, that child won’t know the difference. He/she will just be thrilled to death to have parents and possibly even siblings to love
I would a child is a child no matter what color it is.
I would adopt a child outside of my own race for sure.
I personally wouldn’t have a problem with having a son or daughter of a different race, but some members of my family might have a problem accepting them as one of their own, ( they aren’t mean or anything, just old-fashioned) so I just don’t see the point in stirring the pot unnecessarily. When I adopt, I’m just going to keep it simple and adopt a baby that looks as though it could have been born to me
No…..because I know what it feels like and it ain’t all warm fuzzy feelings.
I don’t relate AT ALL to my white american adopters.
maybe, but if i did i would make sure there was at least 2 so they wouldnt be the only ones. it is not racist, its common sense, if u were the only one who is a different race then u would feel left out. u might love ur parents or whatever but u would still always feel left out.
It doesn’t matter what I feel or you feel about it. It matters what the adopted person feels.
Try to put yourselves in their shoes; how do you think you might feel in that situation
I’d suggest reading some blogs from transracial adoptees about their thoughts on the matter and then decide if people’s answers saying ‘it doesn’t matter’ ring true.
Where I live it’s very difficult for a white person to adopt a child of another race; because they believe it’s in the best interests of the child to grow up with some kind of mirroring
only if it was an Asian Girl like what Woody Allen did
contrary to what we wish to believe, race matters.
many try (and some succeed) at inter-racial adoption. even in the best case scenario, the CHILD’S experience is different. as a black woman of haitian heritage, i can only speak about black/white adoption.
it is somewhat uncomfortable to me to see black children raised in european familes. not because the parents are bad people; yet there is covert (and sometimes, overt) racism that the child experiences that, unfortunately, white people in this culture do not have experience. this comes from peers, and….family members.
a friend of mine told me of a 4th of july cook-out when an "uncle" offered the other children (white) hamburgers, and him a piece of chicken, with the commentary, "i thought you’d like this better!"
let’s face it people, we live in a racist society. and children should not be subjected to this.
also, there is a vastly different interpretation of racism by non-blacks. this same friend, remembered being told "people can achieve if they just work hard", "you are judged by what you are inside, not the color of your skin", "racism is a thing of the past…" wrong. wrong. wrong.
when my friend was tracked into less rigorous classes because it was "perceived" he couldn’t do more advanced work, or when women grabbed their purses and crossed the street, or when he was harassed by cops for being in his "neighborhood", he quickly learned that the "color-blind" belief, is crap.