Comments on: Would you adopt a child outside of your own race? http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm Fulfilling your hopes and dreams. Sun, 07 Feb 2010 01:39:13 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Freckle Face http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm/comment-page-1#comment-3618 Freckle Face Sat, 06 Feb 2010 03:38:51 +0000 http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm#comment-3618 I would and did. Now let me say this.......RACE MATTERS. You have to do sooooooooo much research and embrace the heritage of your child. things to think about........... 1) It is suggested to adopt 2 children of the same race so that there is not just 1 child singled out in her/his family. 2) What music you listen to matters what race are they? 3) photos on your walls or pictures on your walls are they diverse? 4) how diverse is your school, neighborhood, church, town? All of this MATTERS. Your child will have to see themselves reflected in their environment. 5) what magazines do you have in your house? Are they diverse? Your child will notice. 6) what shows do you watch are they diverse? 7) how will you handle racism? 8) How diverse are your close friendships? Your child will need a mentor so to say. A close adult friend who looks like them. 9) You will lose friends and maybe family. Can you handle that? Trust me it will happen, especially when your child becomes dating age. 10) Name the top three holidays celebrated in your child's culture. Its not just your child's culture now you are a family its your families culture. You learn, experience and embrace your child's culture together. Its the hardest most difficult and most awesome and rewarding experiences of my life. Your life will change. Do you know what "white blindness" means.......oh you'll become familiar with it quickly. Read the book "In their own voices" Good luck to you. You have much to think about. Make an informed decision. If you have any questions or if i can help you further, just email me. I would and did. Now let me say this…….RACE MATTERS.

You have to do sooooooooo much research and embrace the heritage of your child.

things to think about………..

1) It is suggested to adopt 2 children of the same race so that there is not just 1 child singled out in her/his family.

2) What music you listen to matters what race are they?

3) photos on your walls or pictures on your walls are they diverse?

4) how diverse is your school, neighborhood, church, town? All of this MATTERS. Your child will have to see themselves reflected in their environment.

5) what magazines do you have in your house? Are they diverse? Your child will notice.

6) what shows do you watch are they diverse?

7) how will you handle racism?

8) How diverse are your close friendships? Your child will need a mentor so to say. A close adult friend who looks like them.

9) You will lose friends and maybe family. Can you handle that? Trust me it will happen, especially when your child becomes dating age.

10) Name the top three holidays celebrated in your child’s culture. Its not just your child’s culture now you are a family its your families culture. You learn, experience and embrace your child’s culture together.

Its the hardest most difficult and most awesome and rewarding experiences of my life. Your life will change. Do you know what "white blindness" means…….oh you’ll become familiar with it quickly.

Read the book "In their own voices"

Good luck to you. You have much to think about. Make an informed decision. If you have any questions or if i can help you further, just email me.

]]> By: devilgirl10732 http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm/comment-page-1#comment-3619 devilgirl10732 Sat, 06 Feb 2010 03:38:51 +0000 http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm#comment-3619 i would adopt a baby outside of my race....who cares what other people think? just make sure that they know that you love them as much as any parent could i would adopt a baby outside of my race….who cares what other people think? just make sure that they know that you love them as much as any parent could

]]> By: Jax http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm/comment-page-1#comment-3620 Jax Sat, 06 Feb 2010 03:38:51 +0000 http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm#comment-3620 We are all of the human race, so why not? :) We are all of the human race, so why not? :)

]]> By: ••i†'s ønly ƒear•• http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm/comment-page-1#comment-3621 ••i†'s ønly ƒear•• Sat, 06 Feb 2010 03:38:51 +0000 http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm#comment-3621 I haven't had experience with this, but I plan to one day. I would absolutely adopt a child outside of my own race and raise her to know that God created all races equally and that her skin color has nothing to do with how much I love her or how she fits into our family. I hope you can have the wonderful chance of adopting a child. Good luck! I haven’t had experience with this, but I plan to one day. I would absolutely adopt a child outside of my own race and raise her to know that God created all races equally and that her skin color has nothing to do with how much I love her or how she fits into our family. I hope you can have the wonderful chance of adopting a child. Good luck!

]]> By: Sirena http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm/comment-page-1#comment-3622 Sirena Sat, 06 Feb 2010 03:38:51 +0000 http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm#comment-3622 I understand your perspective, but eventually any child you adopt would learn the truth sooner or later. Children are impressionable and I think that the fact that you loved the child, provided food, love, and other necessities from the time he was an infant, would transcend the differences in race. Family is more than just whose blood you have. I understand your perspective, but eventually any child you adopt would learn the truth sooner or later. Children are impressionable and I think that the fact that you loved the child, provided food, love, and other necessities from the time he was an infant, would transcend the differences in race. Family is more than just whose blood you have.

]]> By: Fgrfh http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm/comment-page-1#comment-3623 Fgrfh Sat, 06 Feb 2010 03:38:51 +0000 http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm#comment-3623 Yes i dont care children are children great children come from all races. If you decide not to adopt a cute adorable kids just because he is not from your race. You are missing out on the good times you and this child could have. And if you are a caring parent their is no reason why this child should miss out on your love because he is of a different shade. Yes i dont care children are children great children come from all races. If you decide not to adopt a cute adorable kids just because he is not from your race. You are missing out on the good times you and this child could have. And if you are a caring parent their is no reason why this child should miss out on your love because he is of a different shade.

]]> By: ♥ http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm/comment-page-1#comment-3624 ♥ Sat, 06 Feb 2010 03:38:51 +0000 http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm#comment-3624 I know of a Caucasian family with two kids who adopted a little boy from Africa, and let me tell you, he does not feel out of place at all. He is the happiest little boy. Good luck with everything! Peace. I know of a Caucasian family with two kids who adopted a little boy from Africa, and let me tell you, he does not feel out of place at all. He is the happiest little boy.

Good luck with everything!

Peace.

]]> By: Marnie B http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm/comment-page-1#comment-3625 Marnie B Sat, 06 Feb 2010 03:38:51 +0000 http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm#comment-3625 My husband & I are both white & we adopted a black child. My husband & I are both white & we adopted a black child.

]]> By: Dorian http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm/comment-page-1#comment-3626 Dorian Sat, 06 Feb 2010 03:38:51 +0000 http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm#comment-3626 Yes. No question. Yes. No question.

]]> By: hieu http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm/comment-page-1#comment-3627 hieu Sat, 06 Feb 2010 03:38:51 +0000 http://www.lovingoption.org/would-you-adopt-a-child-outside-of-your-own-race.htm#comment-3627 There is no question that through that child's life, he/she will undoubtedly ask himself questions and think about his race. That is ineveitable. However, that is also normal. The best you can do is provide him/her with as much love as any other of your children, no more; no less. Answer questions for him/her whenever asked. Explain to him/her why you chose to adopt. Show your love. good luck!! There is no question that through that child’s life, he/she will undoubtedly ask himself questions and think about his race. That is ineveitable. However, that is also normal. The best you can do is provide him/her with as much love as any other of your children, no more; no less. Answer questions for him/her whenever asked. Explain to him/her why you chose to adopt. Show your love.

good luck!!

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